They finally agreed that he couldnt stay here , then there they were all arguing among themselves about what to do with him . The police wanted him moving out of he area altogether , other agencies say that is a good idea . The council say that he must be in Lincoln because hes only on bail and he hasnt been charged with anything . The council were just saying that they didnt feel that they could risk their staff and suggested that he be rehoused in the Premier Inn , in Lincoln the local council rents the whole of a local Premier Inn for emergency housing , but the police pointed out that he cant be near children as a bail condition , the council were none to happy when the police suggested the new build hostel that is basically an open prison with 24 hour monitoring and the staff are in a module , a lot of the residents have just left prison and are being assessed so this sounds ideal . So at 5pm he was delivered there , the silence is deafening and wonderful . we sat outside last night watching the lightening show and Mr BH said you know we havent heard the last of him dont you .........
Friday 31 July 2020
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We are free.................It took arguing with the powers that be till 5pm yesterday for him to be offered a place in the homeless hostel in Lincoln , we had 5 agencies and the police involved in the conversation . The local council were insistent that he be bailed to this address because we have an empty bedroom , I already knew that would be the argument , but i pointed out we wernt prepared to not see my grandson , my partner is disabled and that Young Baldrick isnt able to follow distancing protocols because he doesnt give a stuff about anyone else . Plus theres no phone signal here so they cant get in touch with him . The police agreed with us that it isnt fair to expect us to provide 24 hour monitoring of his behavior , because we are very rural they couldnt get to us in the event of their being major problems . I just started sobbing at the point the woman from the council stated that they would help me to claim carers allowance for him and sort out rent problems etc . FFS i would be caring 24 hours a day and caring for someone who i believe is dangerous , she got a monk on and suggested that i was the one that needed to see a doctor!!
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Hi Katie, your blog brings it all back to me. I can relate to every thing you have said. Try and laugh at every thing ,rvrn if not funny, it helps you survive.
ReplyDeleteThe Mind organization was helpful in getting assistance after we had lived through 50 since his birth.
Hope you get some support.
Stay strong.
congratulations -what a fight but you have won - once these lot get somebody through your door, there's no getting them out - now you have got them to agree all the reasons why your place is not suitable/secure/acceptable, they can hardly change their minds - your duty is done, your job is done- I hope you can enjoy having your home back and feeling secure - being related to someone doesn't mean you have to carry them-they have to want to help themselves and there is plenty of professional help out there that will come out of woodwork now he's in a safe place and they have taken ownership. I only found your blog recently, the issues I have are not the same as yours but I can relate to a lot of what has happened to you and think you have done brilliantly to get through this.
ReplyDeleteAnd breathe. You have been so strong to get through this awful time. I hope you get some peace and quiet now.
ReplyDeleteI am so relieved for you , I wonder if the do Gooding busy body at the council would have been so keen if he was coming to live with them . Well done to the other people involved to recognise that it was an impossible situation for you .you can breath now and enjoy the quiet .
ReplyDeleteWell done on sticking to your guns and getting the right outcome, for him and for yourselves. it's a huge struggle, but you did it and I am so glad. Try not to let the idea that it's not all over yet nag at you, and enjoy some downtime. Personally I would just want to go to bed for a week!
ReplyDeletePhew - thank god it's over for a long time I hope.
ReplyDeleteRest and enjoy the quiet
I'm glad to hear you finally have some peace, long may it continue
ReplyDeleteKatie, Its wonderful that your extraordinary strength and perseverance have been rewarded !!
ReplyDeleteGood for you.
I've been wondering how things were for you and I agree with Sewing mamie about the council.YOU now need to rest and recover as much as you are able x
ReplyDeleteSo glad to hear that you finally have a bit of relief and now have the chance to get your life back. Please take a deep breath and give yourself a few days of rest to recover.
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