The whole contact his GP farce has left me worn to the bone , his GP is another one of those on Ask GP the computer system that is never working . So i spent most of yesterday trying to explain that he has autism and isnt able to deal with this , till i got one useful receptionist who said i will just get a GP to ring you back . GP rings back and says theres nothing they can offer him but antidepressants and Step Change self referral , something hes really going to take up !! He needs far more than a 3 minute phone call and a soddin phone number .
Yesterday was dreadful from start to finish he smelled so bad he was making my eyes water , he was quite chirpy and on overshare mode . He managed to corner me so he could tell me in full gory detail about his sex life with his partner !!! I was finally rescued by Mr BH going off his head at him but at least he managed to convince him to shower . We have noticed that we have to be very careful about what we watch on the TV anything about the police or violence even the news can set him off on a paranoid rant , we have to keep the TV on so that he doesnt get on his violent xbox games . Saying no has no effect . We had DR Who on all day yesterday as we figured aliens was a good thing for him to be paranoid about . Im so glad we dont have access to guns in this country he is obsessed with them .
I really thought he had quietened down again but no, something while he was flicking channels set him off . This was an epic racist rant , so bad we just sat in silence and looked at each other , how hes lived this long baffles me . In fact he is just terrorizing us we spend a lot of time staring at each other in disbelief , i just stay in the bedroom his dad cant run away and is stuck in a room with him .
Friday he is gone , but i dont think we have heard the last of it .
It's getting very frightening. Stay safe
ReplyDeleteHi Kate, I'm so deeply sorry that you're having to support this person - it sounds very tricky indeed. Are there any advocacy organisations where you are? They may be able to help. Or anyone who helps family carers? They will be aware of resources they could point you to, at the very least.
ReplyDeleteI'm so glad you have your blog to vent to x
Friday must seem a very long time coming. I hope you can hang on - and safely - until then.
ReplyDeleteIt just proves what has happened on so many occasions, someone with mental health issues has been attacked or shot because they are having an episode.
ReplyDeleteThey arent receiving the attention they deserve and need.
ReplyDeleteMy BIL is bi-polar and has been in and out of hospital since he was a teenager. He has been unstable for over two years and for most of that hasn't taken any meds. Unfortunately as he is an adult no one has to listen to the family and his friends when they are literally begging for help for him. The only way to get him into hospital is for the police to decide he is a danger to himself or someone else. He has just come out of The Priory (the only bed available within 75 miles) and is off his meds again already. Good luck to you and much love xxx
ReplyDeleteRoll on friday, he needs to want to help himself and ask for that help.. not going to happen, but at least you have done the cry for help, thats all you can do. Hope the weekend is full of calm and rest foryou.
ReplyDeleteYou are enabling him and allowing this!.Phone the police !. Lock door after him!. We only ever get what we allow!. I would not . No brownie points being a martyr.Ellie
ReplyDeletePrayers for you all - and a hug for you. Stay safe x
ReplyDeleteI know it will be tough - but you have done your best and really, it's time to think of your own sanity and safety and the safety of your husband. It is truly sad that there aren't more resources but you can only do so much for an adult who will never change or who is not able to help themselves. Best of luck,
ReplyDeleteI hope you are ok and getting through this trying time x
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