This is great the first drizzly rain we have had in weeks , took the cats for a walk at 4.30 this morning just because the rain was warm and wonderful . Then to make matters better Mr BH and his BIL have wandered off fishing at first light , BIL is back off work after just a couple of weeks , his boss the builder has decided that hes retiring to his villa in Crete and not coming back. BIL can take over the book but hes debating as hes close to retiring himself and doesnt really want the hassle of being self employed in the current climate , im sure being a handy bloke he can keep himself occupied with a fishing and working a bit here and there .
Young Baldrick is as usual causing drama , hes had to be moved to a Travelodge in another town due to someone going to the YMCA and spreading tales about him , hes been moved for his own safety , it would be nice if the gossips could get there facts straight . He texted his dad to say hes using us as a C/O address it would have been nice to be asked and we would have said no , apparently we must take all his post to him straight away ? Delusional yet again . We have had several conversations with his mother whos still a safe distance away on the other side of the country , shes finding it hard to accept that her sainted little boy should be institutionalised for everyones safety , I finally lost my rag and told her what i thought , she didnt like it much but her partner agrees with me that he is bloody dangerous . We have so much experience of autism in this family and for the most part they are a wonderful if unusual branch of the family , it goes back for generations in both mine and Mr BHs families . I had an Uncle who did a lot of hard time for very good reasons and Young Baldrick is of the same ilk , there needs and wants are all that matters to them , no empathy whatsoever and they are often scarily intelligent and just use those around them . Its always a cliche that those with Aspergers are unemotional but for the most part they feel things just as much as everyone else , they just dont know the society expected responses . It is a minute proportion of the autistic population usually male who go on to need life long hospitalisation , often starting in their teens when theyre to big for their parents to deal with meltdowns that get physical . Injuring there parents and carers is something that nobody wants to talk about , its as if your shouting into the void and the guilt is incredible for the parents involved . Some people are born so damaged that no therapy or drug treatment is going to do a lot of good , why can we not face that and provide better caring homes in a secure enviroment for them . There is bugger all care in the community and it keeps going wrong , lessons learned is utter bollocks ...we learn nothing and no one is listening
Spot on.
ReplyDeleteOf course the real reason for no long term residential care is that it's expensive.
They should never have got rid of psychiatric hospitals.
ReplyDeleteTotally agree with you Kate. They should never have gotten rid of the specialist hospitals/residential care homes. It must be horrendous for families trying to cope in those situations.
ReplyDeleteLuckily our aspergers encounters are mild spectrum stuff but your description is very familiar. I think there are far too many people out there trying to cope on their own who need help and support which just isn't there - but it's scary that your YB character is so vulnerable, dangerous and not at least tagged. I hope the post isn't a devious way to keep you involved and, worse still, a reason to visit you.
ReplyDeleteI wondered if his post could be re directed to his mother and then she can deal with it x
ReplyDeleteI'm with Betty, the post is a way to involve you and a reason to visit - perhaps you should be delusional yourself and put not known by anyone at this address on any post that arrives for him or (and this is naughty lol) redirect it to his Mother's present address. Stay strong Kate xx
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