now my mother and i have always had a difficult relationship . At the moment im plagued with bad dreams and flashbacks to the point of struggling to function at all . None of this is helped by the fact that the hospital she is in is virtually impossible to contact , they hardly answer the phone and when they do its just to hang up . weve had one phone call all the time shes been in their , today daughter managed to make contact only to be told that they have had to section her because she assaulted a member of staff last night and had been extremely verbally abuse to them she had had to be restrained and tranquilized . They thought she may have had a small stroke or something else so she earned a CT and an MRI they can find nothing wrong with her so are scheduling her for release . Shes Covid clear now so they want rid of her . Not sure what the hell is going to happen , but i know this i cant care for her in any shape or form .
I might have found how to comment after trying for almost years and now don’t know what to say except you are right there is no way you can have her.
ReplyDeleteguessed youd manage one day...lol
DeleteSending hugs. I understand about the relationship - my relationship with my mother was very bad.
ReplyDeleteYou have to be very clear. Put it in writing, perhaps even in a registered letter, that you will not take your mother in under any circumstances. See if you can get a copy of the notes. You may have trouble getting carers or a residential place if your mother is listed as someone who could attack staff. Good luck!
i gather because im the other side of the country they cant do it
DeleteGood luck. Stand your ground; fortunately, you have a strong daughter to help out! After making inquiries, my sister and I were faced with the prospect that no facility would take my abusive, alcoholic father after the death of my mother. He died shortly after my mother, relieving us of that .
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this is the problem shes bed blocking , but nobody will take her
DeleteI hope you are managing to get through your days without too much stress x
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