I'm home !!! My first day of being home at a reasonable time , I really am working all hours this week , I should really be getting on with my mountain of data entry chores ready for tomorrow ..stuff it ,im going to winge to you lot instead..lol
Young Baldrick , why ? just tell me why I ever got involved .
One of his mothers relatives has decided that she is going to run everything for him because we are so useless . The first we knew of this was pictures of him in a hot tub swilling beer at this relatives house . She had been to his housing scheme creating, rang Mr Bah Humbug , demanding that we pay his rent that she had just forked out for and take some responsibility for him having no food or benefits . He now has phone credit , pocket money , an xbox etc etc .
We then get a call from his housing scheme to say he hasnt clocked in for curfew and they would have to ring the police , having seen the pictures on facebook we supplied the phone number . They rang back later to say said relative had fetched him back creating a fuss . When we went down to see him the following day he refused to come and speak to us , so i went for a chat with his keyworker while his dad ambushed him trying to slope off .
It turns out that said relative had turned up with her huge benefits paid for four wheel drive , stinking of weed and with her kids in the car , practically kidnapped Young Baldrick and whisked him away . they have no choice but to let him go because he is an adult , but because she was taking him she had to supply her drivers license to be photocopied , so if she turns up again stinking of weed they will contact the police .
Mr Bah Humbug thinks he told her his rent hadnt been paid to try and scam the money and has informed her his rent is covered by Housing Benefit so dont come to us . He had no food because we deliver it on a Friday morning , if he chooses to sell the food to get drugs and alcohol thats his own fault . He had no phone credit because his internet usage is monitored there but they cant monitor his phone . His own xbox is broken because he took it apart in a bid to fit a warp drive to it or something of the sort . even hes not daft enough to turn down an xbox and loads of free money . He also stunk of weed . He is currently being assessed with a view to independent living , so yes by believing his mothers weeping sob story , someone she admits she hadnt spoken to for years she has made his situation 10 times worse .
She has also changed his doctors , managed to get his Glucoma eyedrops from a walk in center after our GP said they could blind him if his eye pressure has changed , which is why he had an urgent hospital appointment pending .
She found out that you cant just go and open a bank account these days and he cant get a penny because he hasnt yet got a bank account .
So yes i feel i have a right to winge and unburden on you all , its been a cracking week
Good God alive, I can't begin to believe what you have to put up with. Don't you sometimes wish you could just shut the door on the lot of them and let them all rot? You are amazing though and I hope something works out for you all soon. Anna
ReplyDeleteI frequently want to run out of the door screaming , but I just take a deep breath ,soldier on and pray ......
ReplyDeleteYou have so much gumption, which is a good thing because you sure need it. I hope you get to enjoy a little peace from family chaos for a bit.
ReplyDeleteneverending i'm afraid , they will be banging on my coffin lid with daft questions
DeleteI bet you are tempted to run away and live on a desert island.
ReplyDeletevery tempted but the fact is this lot would still turn up with there washing !!!
DeleteYou really do have the patience of a saint.
ReplyDeleteI really wish you could have some peace from all of this.
Hugs-x-
Why does young Baldricks feel so entitled?. Everyone running around to help him. What is he doing?. Guess he doesn,t need to care as people will sort if for him, he doesn,t need to take responsibility or work, easy life.
ReplyDeletefunnily enough thats exactly what his mother says ...although it doesnt work that way , tough love doesnt make ASD go away
DeleteGuess not tough love more, Young Baldrick being more responsible for his own life, welfare, didn,t mean to sound hard!.
DeleteYou are amazing!.
Good job you and the key workers are on the same wave length. You are right in supporting him in the basics and freely giving him all those extras is just silly and not helping get his feet firmly on the ground. Do you grind your teeth in your sleep? I would in your place!
ReplyDeletebitch slap his mothers thoughtless relatives is something i do in my sleep most nights , im afraid most of our extended family loath me, they hate the fact i work and that im probably the most sarcastic person they know, also dont mention the Christian bit
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