Sunday, 1 January 2017

2017 Year Of The Mug



So guess what my New Year Present was? Young Baldrick back on the sofa . Hysterical phone calls last night , to his dad , how hes homeless and being threatened again .
Me and Mr Bah Humbug had our first proper row since weve been together , he pointed out all the hoops weve jumped through for my kids and i pointed out that my pair did the sex and rock and roll and not the drugs . So we went to pick him up from a village near Spalding,  nobody there with a baseball bat that we could see ,he fills the van with all his stuff , then gets a lip on with his dad because he wont let him fetch any of his stuff into the house because hes not staying . He was also searched upon entering .
Cant see any damage , hes just remarkably smug and keeps smiling at me . The cuckoo is back in the nest
As usual he smelt like a ferret and stank of weed , cant see thats hes on the hard stuff at the moment as hes not coming down badly like last time .
Ive made the usual round of phone calls this time, he has an appointment with the homelessness officer first thing Tuesday , I have to be with him because hes classed as vulnerable so thats another day off work . Adult social care cant do a lot because his safeguarding officer isnt in till Tuesday but I had a chat with the duty officer who ive spoken to before and she says they have advised he needs to be in a family environment , not let loose to the world , woopy do !!! in other words they want us to keep him ...no way , I would sooner live in my soddin car than share a house with him and ive made this very clear to Mr Bah Humbug .
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16 comments:

  1. Sooze1 January 2017 at 09:21

    Oh Kate, not again. I hope somewhere suitable is found for him soon and 2017 is a better year for you.

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  2. mamasmercantile2 January 2017 at 00:21

    Kate I really hope you find some peace and that a place is found for him. I really hope 2017 brings some happiness and a better year for you. Take care.

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  3. Sue in Suffolk2 January 2017 at 04:41

    OMG Not Again.
    We have a caravan out the front if you need somewhere (for you that is,Not him!)

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  4. TrishWish2 January 2017 at 05:49

    Good lord! Perhaps a caravan in your garden is the answer? I don't think I could have such a person in the house either.

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  5. Anonymous2 January 2017 at 12:49

    Don't like the smug smile...Methinks the young man needs way more than a "family environment" can do for him.
    Interesting that he can flee for his life and still have all of his worldly possessions. Blessings on you and the Mr. My thoughts are with you tomorrow.
    Joyce

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    1. kate steeper3 January 2017 at 06:35

      must admit he did pack a large selection of Yankee candles bless him

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  6. Anonymous3 January 2017 at 05:48

    You might want to look up "malignant autism" and "psychopathic smirk". He knows exactly what he is doing and is manipulating not just you but the professionals who are supposed to be capable of dealing with him.

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    1. kate steeper3 January 2017 at 06:33

      sadly i know my nutjobs , i think its a fair bet that its either NPD or personality disorder affected by his genetic mutation . No cure no treatment , though the rather odd view is the CBT can help with NPD ???

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    2. Anonymous3 January 2017 at 09:33

      As heartbreaking as it is, your first duty is to yourself and the rest of the family and YB last. Like you say there's no cure and no real treatment and you shouldn't be guilted into allowing someone who is clearly a danger to himself and others into your home.

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    3. Margie from Toronto3 January 2017 at 15:05

      Have to say that I agree with this last comment. Look after yourself first - good luck!

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  7. CatieAn5 January 2017 at 00:04

    Oh Kate am so sorry you are going through this again. Do you have such things as group homes or foster care? I agree if he is going to be leaving his dad's for your house you need to set rules he can only bring what he is wearing and a change of clothes.....put him to work or kick him out? I know that sounds harsh but he is taking advantage of all of you.

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    1. kate steeper5 January 2017 at 04:34

      If his adult statment had been done at 18 when he left college all this mess wouldnt have happened , his mother couldnt be bothered with him anymore so threw him out when the money stopped , leaving us to pick up the mess .
      He will always need support in someway for independent living , but support is very patchy and getting less and less.

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  8. Tricky Wolf8 January 2017 at 10:27

    This might cheer you up, relating to your picture, there is actually such a thing as exploding head syndrome! My younger brother has it regularly and now and again so do I! Of all the ludicrously named things to have!

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